So You’re Unhappy?

Let’s analyze your chronic unhappiness today. But no angry, no resentment, no pun intended. Let’s talk everything clearly.

Who knows maybe you fell into the trap of “how will you be happy under these conditions”. You just believed or were made to believe that circumstances dictate everything and you could not go beyond those limits. While doing this, you probably never heard Oscar Wilde’s phrase, “We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.” You  never thought of looking at the stars. Perhaps it was easier to play the role of victim and prey. You have probably never heard of Viktor Frankl, who did not surrender and sacrifice his happiness and well-being to even worst conditions in Nazi concentration camps. I would like you to know this legendary doctor who smiles and hugs life with four hands, while it is not even clear whether he will be alive the next morning. I’m sure if you had known him you’d have been better at trying to change the circumstances instead of complaining about them, finding meaning in your troubles, and enduring them if nothing else can be done. 

So, you are unhappy. It is a shame. Plato says, “Happiness is the reward of virtue.” Could you be unhappy because you are not good enough, do not stand for goodness and justice, do not increase goodness? It just came to mind. Stray dogs are afraid of you, you don’t thank anyone and you don’t apologize to anyone. You don’t feel like caressing a child’s head and maybe you don’t feel grateful for what life has offered to you. I’m still sorry for your unhappiness. 

So you couldn’t find happiness. Just a minute there’s a problem here. Happiness is not something that is digged and found like treasure on a mountain slope. You will create your own glorious happiness. Just like a sculptor blowing her/his soul into marble and turning it into a work of art. You will be the artist of your own happiness. By sculpting it with patience, honor and struggle.

So, you are unhappy. Or are you from the “eat chocolate and be happy” team who always prefer easy, ready and shallow. Then no wonder your unhappiness. This means that you are far from happiness knowledge, that inner intuition, knowing yourself. That’s why happiness is also far from you. How will you set up the thing you don’t have the knowledge of my dear friend? It would be like building without a construction project. Good luck already because your business is really up to luck if that’s the case. Who are you? What do you want to be-what do you want to do in this life? What is your strength, what are your weaknesses? Are you aware of your potential? Are you where you want to be and with who you want to be? What are the most important things in life for you? Are you living a right life? In my opinion, don’t set off before asking yourself these and similar right questions and reaching real answers. You would be tired in vain. This time, you will be both unhappy and tired.

So you’re unhappy. Do not be afraid, I will not push more pressure on you. Now I also have some good news. We, as the iyimserpsikoloji team, are ready and willing to combine our knowledge of literature, philosophy, psychology and humanity with our wonderful optimism and accompany your journey to happiness and being yourself. We know that this journey is difficult but enjoyable. If you want to use your right to be happy and be well, we are ready.